It is good to be moved, settled and all the little things finished off. Od has settled in and is more like his old self. He was actually in a mood most of the time of going into the living room, looking around, and then going back under the bed, wondering I am sure, when all the mess would become mess-less.
As I write I am looking at pictures over my desk: my children, my husband, our Kane Ave. home with lots of snow around it, a picture I have always had over my desk of two hands, one I am to believe is the Lord holding my hand by a finger or two and beside it all is Prov. 3:5,6.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not onto your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your path”
I am trusting tonight – been working all afternoon for P2C. So many serious situations out there and nothing that can be remedied over night, if ever.
At our breakfast table, each morning, the ladies come and are looking forward so much to that hour together. Others come for their meals with high expectation of the food. The meals are all they have to look forward to on any given day.
Remembering the sweet, sweet moment in time here when two of our oldies married. We all knew compromise was about to seal the two together. And so it was. He wants to come over for coffee at 7:30 with a gentleman who is always there for breakfast at Hines. They have the best time talking and laughing together. But she wants him to stay home and she will fix breakfast. He is a talker and likes to talk to everyone. One noon when they were coming for lunch, hand in hand, he stopped (sort’ve) to talk but she was gently pulling his hand onward to their seats. Oh, for sure. Compromise was/is/will always be front and center. But it is more in form than function. How do you compromise on something like this? Do you? Should you? How do you let a person continue to grow and bloom if you strangle every day and make it something that you want and not let the other blossom and find a continued place in life for those they have enjoyed from another time. Have they asked me!!??!! Absolutely not. But I have been asked in my work. I would suggest letting him go. Perhaps suggest he go a couple of times a week and the rest you fix breakfast and enjoy each other.
I know in my own marriage I did not play golf, but Loren LOVED it and that is the understatement. But my part was to make the tee times and talk with him about his game when he got home. I would sit down and listen to what he had to say about it. He would always watch the Pro Golf games on TV. I would prepare treats and watch with him. One time he had a hole-in-one. We talked for over an hour about that. Just the two of us. You think it didn’t make a difference in our marriage? YOU BET IT DID!!!!!!
Back to our love birds here on the campus. It was sweet. He said, we have some differences, but we are working them out. I just bet they are.
I have moved a distance away from our previous apartment. A short block, I would say. but there is the side of life whereby some feel lifeless, others are grabbing any sign of life they can and others simply don’t care any longer. They are just waiting for their ending to arrive. Not too bright and hopeful in spots but then there is that sweet little couple, working their “love” out and ironing out ripples…..and living with the future as bright as it ever could be for them. Others who are still driving and living unrestrictedly, in a way. Others doing nothing but drinking coffee by the gallon each day and sit and talk or play bingo. Others of us still find the necessary things to encourage us, to unentangle us, to keep our minds free and alive and to be a servant right where we have been planted.
There is a verse from The Message which I really like. L-O-N-G **** but so detailed, I want to leave it with you. Here it is. Paul is writing.
“So here’s what I want you to do God helping you: Take your everyday ordinary life – – your sleeping, eating going-to-work, and walking around life – – and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for Him. Don’t become so well adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what He wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well formed maturity in you.” Romans 12:2. It took 117 words for that verse.
If you want to read it in another way here it is.
“But let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think.” Still Rom. 12:2 but must shorter. Only 15 words.
It is late now and the campus is quiet. I just got a cup of coffee, looked out my window and saw lights on everywhere. No one goes to bed early except those who are very ill. Time becomes a slur in spots of living. Interesting to watch – to see.
Mega blessings to each of you who read. God loves you so much. Give Him your all, not just the portion you want to give.